Are You Wanting or Working, Depressed or Determined?


When the trip to the store leaves you wanting more

As a child, you made the trip to the store with your mom dozens of times. Specifically, you knew the drill – be good, get a piece of candy. While you may not have realized mom was avoiding the toy isle and the additional expense that it brought, she often was. Consequently, wise marketing began to put toy displays in the path of the general public. And that’s when it began. You laid eyes on that new shiny toy. The begging, pleading and yes even crying for the beloved toy began. Forgotten was the joy of the piece of candy you were getting or even all the toys you had at home because you wanted that toy. In a nutshell that is wanting works.

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The destructive power of wanting on the mind

In a moment, wanting can turn our mind from content and happy to discontent and depressed.  Here’s a short list of the effects that wanting has on the mind.

  • Wanting by definition is lacking. Which means you have reduced yourself to “not enough” just by the use of the word.
  • Lacking is a scarcity mindset.
  • When the focus is on wanting then gratitude has gone out the window.  Gratitude is the foundation for happiness. When it goes, so does our happiness.
  • Your wanting causes you to be stuck. Wanting is an adjective, not a verb. And therefore when you are wanting you are stuck in the wanting rather than taking action.

Time to replace wanting with working

At this instant, I pray you’ve made the wise decision to strike wanting from your vocabulary. It will likely take some practice, but it will be well worth the effort. In light of removing a word that has a destructive power, it’s important to replace it with a word that creates progress.  And progress is by definition is the movement toward a goal. The word I find effective for using in the place of wanting is working.

Now instead of “I want a new car” (insert sad, distressed face) I strengthen my motivation and determination by saying “I’m working towards a new car” (insert determined face). Here’s a short list of the effects that working has on the mind:

  • Working is a verb and thus is an action word. When we tell our mind to take action it becomes unstuck
  • Working implies progress. According to Teresa Amabile and Steve Kramer in their book titled The Progress Principle, progress ignites joy, creates engagement and improves creativity.
  • Working is an act of faith. And faith has the power to move moutains.

Grab your journal; it’s your turn to grow

Take a few moments and reflect on where you have been stuck.

  1. In the area that you are stuck, can you identify your wanting statements?
  2. Take some time to journal several “I am working statements.”
  3. Enlist an accountability partner to help you catch yourself when you fall into the old habit of using “I want”

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